BeAmman Editor: This piece was published in My Kali magazine in August 2012.
We’re bringing Bizr back! It’s about time someone highlights the glamour of indecent crudity! Actress Jana Zeineddine shows us what marked by a lack of good breeding might appeal like!
(Picture above: Chilling by the Mango Souk boutiques. Jana’s cocktaile dress goes well with Bizr!
One shoulder black and beige dress paired with black pumps and leather studded bag all by Karen Millen.
Silver-pleated earnings with blue beads by Najwan Accessories found at Cafe des Artiste. Head scarf from Abdali Friday flea-market)
Guess who just landed in A-town? Little Miss Thing was displaced from her grandeur trailer in redneck Texas to a tiny mansion in Dabouq, Amman. How she got from A to B is rather peculiar, she ensnared and be wedded a filthy rich Jordanian, charming him with her candidness and zest for life. She was spotted treading in her knock-off Karen Millen’s in downtown Amman, surprisingly expecting. Although this recently labeled “Nouveau Riche” has been transformed from Chavy to Chic, she remains clutching to her old ways. Her white trash lifestyle lured her here to shop in the more mediocre part of town. Strutting her stuff while shopping on a Friday afternoon, spectators could not help but stare at her while she viciously ate Bizr, shells spattered on the floor in act of expectoration, mounting-up around her feet. It could be concluded that you can take a girl out of the trashy trailer but you can’t take the trashiness out of the girl. Surrounding the controversy, My.Kali joins in awe!
(Picture: The Tailors Souk in downtown can be cramped with eye catching suites! The 4-months prego Haggles for a better deal! Stripped shirt, stretch-fitted dress, worn underneath with brown leather belt, black pumps, and leather studded bag all by Karen Millen. Silver-gold pleated earnings by Tafaneen Jewels found at Mlabbas Rainbow St. store. Head scarf from Abdali Friday flee-market)
For many women, the First World War stirred the beginnings of a sexual revolution, and didn’t always thrill men! Here in the Middle East, it’s still a man’s world, yet women still have the privilege to enjoy the disputation of speaking up, concerning matters that enroll strong disagreements, especially when one carried on in public or in the media! And there’s always someone dissimilar! Coming to face terms with her new-lived environment, My.Kali’s cover star, actress Jana Zeineddine “rolls with the punches”! Walking more than a mile in Amman’s downtown, rocking Karen Millen strapless dresses and obscene mini’s along with her much happening 4-months (and something) pregnant belly, haggling old men for a better bargain in Souk Al Khudra (the vegetable market), thrilling all the men, and snarked by all the women, Jana is yet to provoke. “Being on the steps in a dress while a crowd of men gathered at the bottom was very challenging” she admits. At 33, Jana is at a transitional phase in her life and career, transforming from an all-American lifestyle into an authentic-labeled country, more or less preserved, Jordan can be an all-rounder! And although it was harder for her to cope, being in a medieval mode and having a range of miss-fits, above it, she has an Ammani love for the odd, vibrant theatrics of urban life.
Jana is part of a category called a “third culture kid” which essentially means that you grow up in a country that you have no particular roots to at some point in your life. For Jana that was Saudi Arabia, as both her parents are Lebanese and she was born in the US. Growing up in Jeddah until the age of 13, before moving to the US, Jana felt very sheltered. “I was a child growing up like any other. I was in an International British school, so all of my friends were from all over the world. I was exposed to a global environment at a very early age in my life, and it felt natural and wonderful.” It was in Saudi that her appreciation for various cultures and backgrounds began – and would continue to inspire her as an adult “one of my favorite things to do is travel to new destinations. It’s a form of education and enlightenment that I feel you can’t seek in any other capacity.” But it wasn’t until she moved to the US that she felt the ‘culture clash’.
You lived through and between different cultures, from Jeddah to the US, Lebanon (which you visited frequently) to the UK and now Jordan. What’re the struggles you face on daily basis and through that culture clash?
In 1990, we were visiting Washington, DC for the summer as we did every summer. The only difference was that we never returned to after that, and a month later my brother and I were enrolled at the Maret School, a very small and very American private school. I was 13, chubby and wore ceramic braces. Moving to the US was an impulsive response to the Iraqi invasion of Kuwait. I was placed in a completely opposite environment from the one I had been in, and I struggled big time. It would take years before I would start to find my own sense of belonging. Having Lebanese parents at home trying very hard to maintain certain ideals and cultural expectations – which often times clashed with the American ideals I was exposed to – caused a lot of tension within myself and with my parents. It wasn’t until my undergraduate years at the George Washington University that I began to feel more settled in my skin. I met a lot of Arabs and started to feel a lot more comfortable. Not until I settled in Jordan in 2009 that I felt a huge culture shock once again- very similar in impact to the one I felt when I moved to the US at age 13. The shock this time was encountering cultural conservatism, rich versus poor, religion and the perception and treatment of women in Jordan. I was definitely not prepared for the environment I had just entered.
|(Picture up: In her strolling mode near The Tailors Souk, the girl looks for good steals! Stripped shirt, stretch-fitted dress, worn underneath with brown leather belt, black pumps, and leather studded bag all by Karen Millen. Silver-gold pleated earnings by Tafaneen Jewels found at Mlabbas Rainbow St. store. Head scarf from Abdali Friday flee-market)|
That sense of belonging, did it you help you understand other people’s similar struggles whether it’s culture or sexuality or religion and in what way?
Yes. I feel that everyone, on some level, whether it’s their relationship with religion, their sexuality, their gender, their social status etc, struggles with fitting in. I think that’s in part what makes us human; we all struggle in different ways. I feel having that experience of feeling ‘out of place’ more than once in my life, has made me more empathetic and understanding to people who feel out of place on a daily basis.
It is also what inspires my work as a performer and Applied Theatre practitioner – my goal in my work is to connect with people, and to have them connect with each other.
|(Picture up: Flirting is always the best bargain-trick in The Vegetable Market in Downtown Amman! Radiant in her stripped shirt, stretch-fitted dress, worn underneath with brown leather belt, and leather studded bag all by Karen Millen. Silver-gold pleated earnings by Tafaneen Jewels found at Mlabbas Rainbow St. store. Head scarf from Abdali Friday flee-market)|
I agree, however, women are treated differently abroad, maybe more liberated, even in Lebanon. How is it like for you (as Jana who went through different backgrounds) in Jordan, as oppose to those abroad?
I have no doubt that women all over the world continue to fight for their independence and respect. Whether you’re in the US or in Lebanon, women still have to work hard to maintain their power and position in society. An obvious difference are the anti-discrimination laws that are set in place, that effect the treatment and cultural perceptions of women and impacts them on a day to day basis – at work and at home. Having lived in the US and UK, I never felt that I was any less powerful than a man. In Jordan, as advanced as it is with respect to various women’s rights for a Middle Eastern country, there are still many laws that are horrific and set women back to the Dark Ages. Luckily, I am not affected by the laws that exist in Jordan. I am married to a wonderful person who values equality in our marriage. I feel I have an equal power position with my husband. Our roles may not necessarily be equal (for example I am the primary caretaker of our son) but we still maintain a balance of power in our relationship. It is not until I leave my house that I feel the discrimination – from being publicly verbally and physically assaulted by men in the streets, and not feeling like I have the power to engage. That has been very difficult for me to negotiate, and a struggle that remains an issue.
I feel that until a Feminist movement hits the Middle Eastern region, progress will happen at a snail’s pace. It is up to women to unite and take charge.
Do you think women should start burning their bras at Dakhelieh Circle enable to get that attention?
Not necessarily, I feel that in every culture, there is an appropriate way to respond. Burning bras was a metaphor in the 60s appropriate and effective in that (American) culture. The difference in the Middle East is that the Feminist uprising is not cohesive. On one hand, you have the secular feminist movement that tries to implement universal women’s rights and the second is the more conservative religious movement that is limited by the cultural restrictions, whereby a protest act such as bra burning or its equivalent in Jordan, would be considered going too far.
(Picture up: Lunch 101! Hunger can be demeaning when it wants to be! Jana gorge on fork-full of onion salad in Auberge restaurant wearing a strapless dress with flower graphics, and leather studded bag by Karen Millen. Silver constantinople coin necklace and turquoise stones earnings by Najwan Accessories found at Cafe Des Artiste. Head scarf stylist’s own)
“There is more public outrage that occurs against misogyny abroad. In Jordan, however, there’s a higher tendency towards tolerating misogyny and inequality – and this is a responsibility that both men and women have to take on if there is going to be any positive change.”
You said that feminist movement is parted; one is more conservative religious movement that is limited by the cultural restrictions of protest acts – such as bra-burning, what’s considered limiting to you?
It’s society’s perceptions and attitudes towards women that can be limiting. Women themselves can be their own worst enemies. The moment a woman begins to settle for the status quo, she is limiting herself.
In my work, I have come face to face with many women of religious conservative backgrounds that would take me aside after a drama workshop (It was the Social Theatre project on gender that I did last year) and reveal how they feel ‘trapped’ and ‘afraid to act’ due to what ‘other people in society will think and say’. In one case, a woman who was beaten frequently by her husband approached us and told us she feels helpless. Her family will not support her (because they think her husband has the right to hit her) and Hamayit Al- Usra was ineffective in helping her. She felt helpless and incapacitated. This is one of many women that cannot get the help she needs because of the limits that society has placed on her.
In most developed countries there is a collective cultural thrust of women’s rights that empowers women to stand up against inequality.
There is more public outrage – on a cultural level – that occurs against misogyny abroad. In Jordan, however, there’s a higher tendency towards tolerating misogyny and inequality – and this is a responsibility that both men and women have to take on if there is going to be any positive change.
(Picture: Dandy haze! Dwell over a sugar-free lemonade this summer in Auberge restaurant. Strapless dress with flower graphics, Karen Millen. Silver constantinople coin necklace and turquoise stones earnings by Najwan Accessories found at Cafe Des Artiste. Head scarf stylist’s own. Ring; Jana's own)
You’ve let My.Kali revamp you and take you to downtown-Amman, casting you in the role of a classless woman with money (who married a rich Arab man) and went shopping in the most obscene dresses and being 4-months pregnant. Vulgar! You seem to have enjoyed the fuss and the controversy of the challenge. How did you feel about it? And what did you gain out of the experience (beside the amazing photos)?
The photo-shoot was a really amazing opportunity for me to challenge myself on many levels! There is something very intriguing about the balad, and in all honestly, as much as I would love to go there and wander the souks on my own, I avoid it at all costs due to the harassment I have received in the past. So, going there 4-months pregnant and dressed in a short and fitted dress with heels, was quite a challenge. At first it was very difficult, and I could feel the stares and hear the negative comments I was getting from many of the passersbys. Then I decided to let it all go and focus on the photo shoot. I was doing nothing wrong and was dressed normally in any less conservative environment. I took it as an opportunity to challenge others by putting myself out there and saying ‘this is what some modern women, mothers, wives and daughters look like’. It became more of a fun game towards the end than anything, but it wasn’t easy!
As an actress/director, what roles would make you say ‘Ah! Mmm I like it’. Would interest you?
I like to take on roles that are farthest from who I am as a person. I like to challenge myself. I like to play powerful women with an edge, a fault, an insecurity and a passion that are different from my own. As a director, and this is a new role I recently have taken on, I like to take on projects that involve collaboration with others. I love to work with others who think differently from me but are inspired in thought. In all of my work, I want to do projects that challenge the way people think. Entertaining them is fun, challenging them is extraordinary.
(Picture: Strut down Basman St. when observing the city's vintage musk! One shoulder black and beige mini cocktail dress, black satin pumps by Karen Millen. Black copper earnings with turquoise stones by Najwan Accessories, found at Cafe' Des Artiste. head scarf found at Abdali Friday flee-market)
Why did you decide to get into theater? Was there someone who inspired you to get into theater?
I have been performing ever since I could talk. I don’t think I ever really made a decision to be in theatre, I just naturally gravitated to the stage as a child and as an adult. I think it’s tied to how I feel as a woman living in this time and age, having had the many good and bad experiences in my life. The theatre has always been a haven for me, a platform for honest expression, exploration, inspiration and connection with others. I think I seek that in my life, and the theatre has been a platform with which I have been able to successfully achieve these things.
You managed to put together a play/musical (Along with Shireen Abu Khader), casting the choir of Dozan wa Awtar in the play ‘Dum Dum Tak’. The play was based on real life stories of members of the choir, which consisted on ‘Applied Theater’ as well. Channeling comedy and drama, the show was a hit. Now, many of our readers are private, closeted and some are shy, my question is: Ever narrated your story or shared something private to a strange audience? How does it feel to share? Was the process healing, considering its applied theater?
Wow great question. I think as a performer you always reveal a part of yourself, you almost have to on some level in any role. Emotionally I have revealed parts of myself I would rather not, specifically my vulnerability. In an applied theatre setting, I have not been in a workshop as a participant yet where I have shared a personal story, but I am definitely open to it.
Do you think it’s hard for someone to show their vulnerable side? Does acting/theater play on that? Push that? Why do you think people have hard time showing it while for others it’d maybe easier?
To be a good actor, you have to be willing to show your vulnerable side. That’s what makes some actors much better (stronger) than others. For me when an actor makes me feel a certain way, they are sharing their vulnerability or fragility in order to make that happen. The level of resistance in showing that vulnerability is directly linked to a performer’s own processing of their emotions. The more willing they are to show them, the more they have come to terms with them.
|(Picture up: We're bringing Bizr back! It's about time someone highlights it's sex appeal! Jana enjoys her downtown time near The Mango Souk wearing a one shoulder black and beige mini cocktail dress, black satin pumps by Karen Millen. Black copper earnings with turquoise stones by Najwan Accessories, found at Cafe' Des Artiste. head scarf found at Abdali Friday flee-market)|
You took part of a workshop done in London for Transsexual people. Can you take us through it? And what experience did you gain from it?
While I was completing my Masters in Applied Theatre at the Central School of Speech and Drama in London, I took part in a course called ‘Writing with Communities’. The community in focus for that term happened to be transgendered youth in London. It was a course that changed my perspective on the transgendered identity, and challenged my very own perspectives on identity in general. Based on a model of practice called Democratic Collaboration, the process involved over 50 LGBTQ (and allies) participants in a series of four 5-hour drama workshops that addressed homophobia (targeting both homosexuals and transgendered people). Over the course of the workshops, the group shared stories of homophobic discrimination, improvised selected stories and created a 45-minute play that directly addressed homophobia surrounding the transgendered community. The play was then toured throughout England in various high schools with a post-performance workshop that addressed the overlapping nature of three identities: sex, gender and sexual orientation. The experience profoundly affected my understanding of the complexity and multi-layered aspect of identity and also opened my eyes to the daily struggles that the transgendered people face. I can single handedly say that I learned more from the amazingly intelligent and perceptive group of transgendered youth that participated in the project more than any other group in my life.
What do you think of those actors who seem to think it’s necessary to be the strangest people they can be?
I am not drawn to overly dramatic people in general. Some actors I find very self-indulgent, narcissistic and arrogant. I don’t understand the need for that type of behavior. To me it’s a sign of insecurity. If an actor is strange because they are naturally strange or quirky, then so be it. However, if they’re going out of their way to ‘act strange’ or ‘be strange’, well then I find that kind of silly and completely unattractive.
(Picture up: Slurp! When in Jordan Cafe' downtown, sneak into the shabby kitchen for a cool fruit juice.
Orange fitted dress by Karen Millen. Leather and gold pleated earnings vintage. Second-hand leather jacket with hatta detailed inseams worn over shoulder.
Head scarf from Abdali Friday flee-market. Wedding ring; Jana's own.)
What is your philosophy on the profession of acting?
Be true, be just, be real, and be open.
How did you meet your husband, Imad? And as you mentioned earlier, how does it feel to ‘have married your best friend’?
I met Imad at his actress cousin’s show in NYC in 2002. At the time, he was dating someone and so was I. A year later, she encouraged me to come to a party her cousin Imad was having. Reluctantly I went, and spent a total of 20 minutes there, 15 of which were talking to Imad – who had become recently single! One thing led to another and within weeks we were two love-struck-like teenagers dating and falling head over heels. Unfortunately, three months after we stared dating, Imad went to visit his family in Amman for a few weeks and due to visa issues, was not allowed to return to the US. We ended up in a 3-year long long-distance relationship, NYC/Amman, that happily ended in marriage. Being in a long-distance relationship for so long was a nightmare on many levels, but in that time we became exceptional communicators and really became one-another’s life-support. Marrying your best-friend definitely makes marriage a lot easier in my opinion. It’s been an amazing ride so far.
Being a mom can be a rollercoaster! What are the joys and compromises that comes with it?
The joy of being a mother is like no other. The love I have for my son is the most profound and amazing feeling I have ever experienced. He warms my heart and gives me great direction. He really is a wonder to me. After I became a mom, my career took a backseat. I was expecting that, but may not have been as emotionally prepared to fully comprehend it. It’s a compromise I make without hesitation, but I am also one that loves what I do, I love to work and feel that it brings much added value to my life. Going months without work was very difficult, and I struggled to accept it, but it’s part and parcel of being a mother. I do miss sleeping 8-hours uninterrupted, responding to an email in a timely fashion, lounging on the couch with a good book and cup of coffee and being spontaneous in general. However, I know that my baby will grow up, and in time I will start to get back those simple pleasures of pre-motherhood life. Until then, it’s a daily challenge of balance, acceptance and lots of patience.
(Picture: It's never weird to catch up on your Vogue reading when chilling in an all-men cafe'! Orange fitted dress and nude leather pumps by Karen Millen. Leather and gold pleated earnings; vintage. Second-hand leather jacket with hatta detailed inseams worn over shoulder. Head scarf from Abdali Friday flee-market. Wedding ring; Jana's own)
You’re a mom of a baby boy and expecting you’re second child, who you recently knew it’s a girl, and with us you shared your good news (congratulations by the way). However, many moms hold themselves responsible when knowing that their son/daughter is gay! Blaming themselves for their child’s sexual orientation… How do you feel about that? And what can you tell them?
I believe you are born with your sexual orientation. In all honesty, I used to hope that my children don’t turn out gay simply because I feel like it’s a much harder life, and gay people all over the world still face severe discrimination, bullying and violence. Who would want that for their child? But my husband, who disagreed with me at the time, challenged my fears by saying “who doesn’t struggle in life? Who doesn’t have it hard?” The reality is, when you become a parent, the last thing in the world you want is for your child to be inflicted by any pain or harm. You will do anything to protect your child from such harm. However, at the end of the day, I want my child to be a happy child who grows up into a happy adult – whether they’re gay or straight is not really for me to decide. So, I can say my perspective on this subject has changed in recent years. I want to raise a healthy, happy and successful individual and hope that whatever their sexual orientation, they live their life to their greatest potential. My role as a mother is to pave the way for that to happen. As for mothers who ‘blame themselves for the children’s sexual orientation’, all I can say is, love your child no matter what and accept them as they are, for you have no control over who they are or what they want in life.
Our culture is so controversial toward many issues; it could get intense, limiting and is indeed filled with taboos. I would like to nit-pick your mind about some of them.
You and your husband, Imad, come from different backgrounds, and as you mentioned to us (in a pre-interview sitting), that both of you comes from different religions along from different backgrounds. So what’s your take on marriage of different religions?
Although I was born into the Druze faith, I was raised in a very secular home. I am not one who lives my life by any religion. I have my faith and my spirituality, but am not guided nor do I choose to guide my life by religion. As for my stance on ‘marriage of different religions’ clearly I am all for it. I think it’s hard enough to find someone in life that you feel safe with, that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Limiting yourself by religion in a relationship – in my opinion – is tied to social customs, i.e. what will people say? How will they raise the kids? What will the kids be? Etc. It takes two to tango in this scenario. I believe couples of different religions have to have a very clear picture on the role that religion (if any) will take in their lives and their children’s lives before getting married.
(Picture above: Amman's love for the paradox! Impress the right people and turn heads in the Mango Souk when
in Karen Millen's cocktail one shoulder black and beige dress paired with black pumps and leather studded bag all by Karen Millen.
Black copper earnings with turquoise stones by Najwan Accessories found at Cafe des Artiste. Head scarf from Abdali Friday flea-market)
In a conservative Muslim society like Jordan, rapists can walk free thanks to penal code Article 308; (which gives a rapist the right to marry his victim). For a woman who has a full control over her life and sexuality, what’s your take on what’s known to be the “Rape-Law”?
Clearly Article 308 is a horrific law that needs to be abolished as soon as possible. Not only does it infringe upon a young woman’s right to incriminate a rapist that has so horribly violated her, it also serves as a reminder that women in Jordan (and various other Middle Eastern countries including Lebanon) do not have the same rights that men have. If a young boy was raped, what would happen to his rapist in that case? Clearly marriage is not an option. How would his honor be defended? Article 308 is disgusting, sexist and almost too absurd to be true. It’s epitomizes the need for Muslim conservative societies to be less governed by what ‘Thakafat al 3aib” in society dictates and be guided by more rational and critical problem solving solutions.
Don’t you think it decreases honor crimes? (Considering the fact it’s the best option given at the moment? And since forced marriages are still up, wouldn’t this one be better than for her to be killed for something that clearly isn’t her fault? What about for the time being?)
I don’t think one can solve a problem by creating another one. Article 308 does not necessarily decrease honor crimes, but rather perpetuates the ‘rational’ for them to exist. The notion that a woman’s honor will be salvaged if she marries her rapist is both damaging and absurd on mental, emotional and psychological levels. In both cases – Article 308 and in honor crimes – a woman is not given a fair opportunity to defend herself, nor is she given any rights that truly protect her honor. If a father truly believes his raped daughter is better off marrying her rapist, then we have a much more serious problem to address in our society.
When it comes to harassment, and as a woman in Jordan, ever felt violated? What are some of the things that you go (and went) through? And what some of these experiences are?
I have felt violated on many levels as a woman in Jordan. It has mainly been in the form of unwanted verbal assaults and disgusting stares. I usually brush it off by ignoring it and try very hard not to engage. The most extreme case happened when I was walking my baby in the King Hussein Park and a man exposed himself to me and began to masturbate. At first I was in such a state of shock and immediately ran as fast as I could. Then I became increasingly frustrated when I could not locate a single policeman in the park to report the man to. When I finally did, upon exiting the park in my car, the policeman essentially said that ‘men are pigs’ and that I should ignore it. I told him ‘that’s not an answer. There should be better safety measures to protect women from such men so that we can walk in the park and not fear for our safety”. He smiled and nodded politely. Clearly this experience is symptomatic of a much larger issue in Jordan – sexual repression.
Do you think women can do something about it? Give us an example of situation you went through (and felt violated) and what action did you take?
Women can report such incidents to the police and form alliances with each other. Almost every woman I know who lives in Jordan has a story. I am sure that if more and more women got together and mobilized, something would come out of it. It’s usually an incident that’s forgotten about. I even was hesitant to share my story. I chose to because I feel it’s necessary for women to know that it’s not safe to go to the park without a male unfortunately. (That was not the first time I had been made to feel extremely uncomfortable by a man in the park on my own). I could have taken more action by reporting the man I mentioned above, but I had my baby with me and just wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible.
Regarding the LGBT people in Jordan, what have you heard or know?
I have heard that they are a closed off community, not open and not very supportive of one another. I was lead to believe that they live in fear.
(Picture up: Strike to be different! Get in touch with your odd soul when feeling like an outcast in Jordan Cafe in downtown Amman and flaunt it!
Orange fitted dress by Karen Millen. Leather and gold pleated earnings vintage. Second-hand leather jacket with hatta detailed inseams worn over shoulder.
Head scarf from Abdali Friday flee-market)
Many LGBT are forced to get married (gay men marrying gay women) or were forced. What’s your take on marriage alone, and about such arrangements?
I am not one to judge. If that type of arrangement works for some LGBT, then so be it. It’s unfortunate that they have to resort to a ‘marriage of convenience’ but what choice do they have? The laws do not support their lifestyle choices. On the other hand, I question whether or not by succumbing to these types of arrangements, do they perhaps become complacent to the system and lose their will to fight for their rights? On one level it seems like a convenient way around the system, on another level, it appears to support an existing system that needs to change.
Do you think the traditional notions of marriage are challenged in terms of days today, especially when it comes to homosexuality?
Yes, I do believe that traditional notions of marriage are challenged by gays in our society today – referring specifically to Western societies since that discourse does not exist in the Middle East at this point. The very notion of marriage as an ‘institution’ and whether it’s a natural state to be in or not is one that continues to be questioned and challenged. I think that bringing in the ‘gay dynamic’ into this discourse only enriches it and allows for increased critical discussion around the very notion of marriage.
Are we constrained as much by conventional thinking about what constitutes a family?
The term nuclear family is noted to date back to as early as 1924 and consists of “a father, a mother and their children”. Despite the many adaptations to this structure that constitute what makes a family, I still believe that people gravitate to the conventional notion that what constitutes a family is a man, his wife and their children. Whether it’s our own family unit, the various social agents we are exposed to or film and TV, we are bombarded with images of what constitutes a family. Family structures, however, are starting to change in more ways than one, and the media and TV/Film have been ahead in capturing and reflecting these changes – for example, shows such as ‘Modern Family’ directly challenges this notion in intelligent and humorous way.
Do you think LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender) people need or should have that piece of paper to gain stability?
I think LGBT should have the same rights that non-LGBT people have, so yes.
|(Picture: Play the staring game with men who, apparently, never saw a women eating bread before! Strapless dress with flower graphics, and leather studded bag by Karen Millen. Silver constantinople coin necklace and turquoise stones earnings by Najwan Accessories found at Cafe des Artiste. Second-hand vntage leather jacket with hatta detailed inseams, and head scarf stylist’s own)|
You’re an actress; do you think portraying a lesbian role would help you understand the struggles of what gay women go through?
Absolutely! I think it would be a challenge to portray a lesbian woman but nevertheless a welcomed one. When portraying any role as an actor, you have to understand the psyche, mentality and essence of who that person is, specifically what their struggle is. Through this direct empathy, greater understanding of their struggle would naturally occur.
Ever been invited to a gay wedding/engagement?
Well, few months ago, there were flyers all around Amman, an invitation for a gay wedding of ‘Ahmad and Adel’ on Paris’s circle in Webdeh area. (an invitation landed on our lap) If that flyer landed on your lap, and decided to go, who would you take with you, and why? What would you wear? (We tried to attend but we missed the zafeh, and the story ended with so many rumors! Really!)
I would go with Imad and I would wear a very bright and colorful dress. I would take Imad because he would appreciate seeing two people like Ahmad and Adel risk their lives for what they believe in. My husband loves controversy, and I love an unconventional wedding!
What would you get them?
I would get them Mlabbas t-shirts that say ‘Game over’
Photographs by Rafic. Worded and styled by Kali. Make-up: Nada Al-Agha. Hair: Mahmoud Karajogly. Digital art work: Atef Daglees. Behind the scenes video: Ala’a Abu Qasheh. All clothes by Karen Millen. Accessories by Najwan Accessories found at Cafe’ des Artiste and Tafaneen Jewels by Suha Ibrahim found at Mlabbas store in Rainbow st. Special thanks to Auberge restaurant and Jordan Cafe (مقهى الأردن) in downtown Amman.